Nobody enjoys failing. Fear of failure can be so strong that avoiding failure eclipses the motivation to succeed. Insecurity about doing things incorrectly causes many people to unconsciously sabotage their chances for success.
Fear of failure is the intense worry you experience when you imagine all the horrible things that could happen if you failed to achieve a goal. The intense worry increases the odds of holding back or giving up. Being successful relies to a large extent on your ability to leverage fear.
Redefine Failure as Discrepancy.
Success is often hard to define. Failure is even harder.
What is your definition of failure? Giving up? Never going after your goals? Not achieving the desired outcome? Not achieving the desired outcome within an expected timeline? You may think that the answer to this question is obvious. But it is important to be clear about what you consider failure, since failure is the object of your fear and the obstacle to your success.
To make your goal pursuit fail-proof, switch from thinking about failures to thinking about discrepancies between what you hope to achieve and what you might achieve. Discrepancies provide you with information that you can study, explain, and learn from so you can recalibrate your future efforts.
As long as you continue making an effort, there is no room for failure. When you give up altogether, for no better reason than fear of failing, that’s a different story!
Learn to Think Positively
In many cases, you believe what you tell yourself. Your internal dialogue affects how you react and behave.
Our society is obsessed with success, but it’s important to recognize that even the most successful people encounter failure.
Walt Disney was once fired from a newspaper because they thought he lacked creativity. He went on to found an animation studio that failed. He never gave up, and now Disney is a household name.
Steve Jobs was also once fired from Apple before returning as the face of the company for many years.
If Disney and Jobs believed the negative feedback, they wouldn’t have made it.
Anything Worth Doing Long Term, Is Going To Be Difficult
There’s no way around it.
Fear and failure are integral parts of the recipe. If you are passionate about achievement in any significant area of your life you’re going to have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Do it for your future self.
Take time to understand what’s causing your fear and hesitation. Make peace with it. Develop ways to beat it or use it to fuel your fire.
In the immortal words of Rocky Balboa “that’s how winnin’ is done”.
Accept that failure is inevitable. At some point along the way, you will fail. But here's the critical point: failure is not something to fear. Rather, it is something to learn and grow from.
When we embrace our failures, we learn from them. That knowledge is the key to succeeding further down the line. So, really, the more we fail, the more we will succeed. Freeing up our minds by releasing the fear gives us license to be creative and bold.
Once you have freed yourself from fear, you can change your perspective. You will be more able to recognize obstacles and take them on with a more successful attitude. This will allow you to grow.
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