Judgement is a hard-wired mechanism for survival, a natural
instinct, and a defense mechanism. Most of us partake in constant judgment of
people’s clothing, judgement of people’s words, judgment of people’s actions.
However, more often than not it consumes so much of our mental energy
unnecessarily.
Judgement seems to be inherent to us humans… Judgement is
not always bad, judging people can be a gift when it prompts self-reflection
and growth. Constructive judgment can highlight areas for improvement, inspire
empathy, and foster deeper understanding of ourselves and others. It serves as
a tool for personal development and building healthier relationships,
ultimately leading to greater self-awareness and fulfillment.
Here are some of the benefits that can come from our
judgments of others…
Self Awareness
Our judgments offer valuable insights, revealing areas in
ourselves where we can nurture love, acceptance, and reconciliation. They
illuminate opportunities for personal growth, expansion, and release, paving
the way for forgiveness and authentic confidence.
Constructive Feedback
When we are busy judging others and we don’t have to deal
with ourselves. Feedback is a powerful tool for growth, both personally and as
a leader. Invite others to share their thoughts and observations with you. Once
you begin listening to learn about another, wonder focuses your attention, and
you feel appreciation for another’s experience. You experience empathy; a state
of understanding and respect. Put yourself in the shoes of those you lead and
imagine how they might be experiencing the challenges they face. Instead of
feeling defensive, let empathy stimulate how you respond and act. Remember,
feedback is a precious gift that will propel you forward when you open and
receive it fully.
Expanded Compassion
When we’re being judgmental, it can remind us about the
importance of compassion – for ourselves and others. The things we judge in
others (which are always things we judge in ourselves consciously or
unconsciously) are simply things we don’t have much compassion for. We can use
our judgments as opportunities to expand our capacity for compassion, one of
the most powerful emotions we can express and experience in life.
There’s nothing wrong with us being judgmental, it’s a
normal aspect of being human. And, while judgments can and do cause a great
deal of difficulty and pain in our lives and relationships, especially if we
stay unconscious about them, we can use our own judgmental tendency to actually
create the kind of life and the kinds of relationships we truly want. There are
advantages in our judgments, if we’re willing to do the work necessary and
confront them and ourselves with ruthless compassion and vulnerable truth.
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